The Family Jenga Tower – Stages of Change
Everyone is familiar with Jenga. The game becomes most difficult when the easily removable pieces are exhausted, and we must take out supporting pieces from the bottom, which stabilize the already porous and unstable tower. When someone in a family system is unhappy and decides to change their life, it resonates with others as if a supporting block is being removed. The entire system begins to wobble, and it's uncertain if it will remain standing.
Naturally, tensions rise, and every family member, including the one wanting change, feels uncertain and might even become angry. Often, family members might temporarily oppose the one pushing for change.
However, let's remember that change is a natural part of life. We have the right to understand ourselves, process our traumas, learn from our adverse experiences, and let go of negative patterns.